Saturday, January 25, 2020

EGO-SYNTONIC: What is it?

There is another part of Narcissism which explains why Narcissists don't recognize that their behavior is having a negative impact on people around them: Ego-syntonicism, or ego-syntonicity.

Here are just a few ingredients:
  • Low emotional awareness
    • Lack of empathy, concern, compassion.
    • Unable or unwilling to anticipate the needs of others
  • Low situational awareness
    • Lack of courtesy in public.
    • Doesn't use the inside voice, inside.
    • Ignores the turn signals of other vehicles while driving.
    • Doesn't respect parking lot rules, like leaving enough space for other parked cars.
    • Interrupts the activity of others
  • Inability to understand abstract concepts
  • How This Remote Island Became Home To Millions Of Pieces Of Trash
    • Sacrifices trust by talking about other people behind their backs, but doesn't realize the damage to one's own reputation as a gossiper.
    • Unable to realize the long-term consequences of one's own choices, like using plastic.
  • Egocentrism
    • Selfish. Takes everything personally. Believes the world revolves around oneself.
    • Assumes that people are being rude when they are really only having a bad day.
  • External Locus of Control
    • Believes that one's own situation is caused by other people. Comes to hate or resent other people.
    • Unable to manage or take responsibility for one's own emotions. Believes that other people or situations makes one angry.
  • Xenophobia
    • Fear of strangers, different ethnicity, different races.
  • Dogmatism 
      • Defers decisions to the edicts of perceived authority figures.
      • Does not question authority.
      • Lives by a set of rules laid down in ancient times that are now of no consequence due to scientific advances and learning.

Creeping Normality

Through years of watching the spectacle of bad behavior on television and now social media, this sort of behavior, like gossiping or narcissistic behavior has become normalized, even glorified.